How to use Incense Holders | Burners


Christmas has come and gone, and you have just received your first incense holder or may be purchased your own.  As with all incense burners some will be for incense sticks only, some for-incense cones only and some will be a great all-rounder.


Light your incense stick at the tip making sure that you let the flame flicker for a moment before blowing on it, make sure the tip glows a vivid red, then you place your incense stick into its holder.

You can light your incense cone the same way but remember you must hold the cone securely at its base and make sure that it does not touch your fingers, as these burn much hotter than the incense sticks.

round soapstone incense holder with Pentagram hand pained onto it for two incense sticks or incense cones 


The majority of round or square incense burners will usually have one or more holes for you to place your incense stick, this allows you to either tilt the incense stick towards the middle or have it directly in the middle of the burner to allow the ash to safely fail on the burner.

Even so, we would always advise that you use a fireproof mat or plate under this type of burner in case ash falls onto your furniture. 

selection of long wooden incense burners with different designs.  For incense sticks and cones

You may have received one of these great little starter incense burner/holders, or a more decorative version.  These are perfect for incense sticks but can be used for incense cones as well.

We would always suggest using the small metal, soapstone or clay tablet that comes with your incense cone pack to use with these type of incense holders so not to mark your holder.

Also, these types of incense holders are not generally good for catching your incense stick ash so always remember to place a heat proof dish or mat, underneath. 


For these type of incense burners, you will find that your incense will diffuse much more efficiently around your home as the carvings allow the smoke to dissipate easily and they keep the ash contained and tidy.

These burners come with intricate open carvings or can be more solid tower with vent holes throughout and above.  Please ensure that your incense stick stands upright, if it touches the inside of the burner the incense stick may go out.

You will find these versions in wood and soapstone with carving allowing the incense smoke to move freely around your home.

With some of the more elaborate soapstone you can also have tea lights as well thus making it the perfect gift as these can be a decorative ornament, incense stick and cone holder and in the evening a beautiful tea light.

When using these types of incense burners always make sure that your incense stick sits in the middle of the burner so that it does not touch the inside/  The bases can be small drilled holes in a wooden or soapstone base or may have a small rubber bung with one single hole.

You may have received an incense holder where the incense stick hangs up side down in the lid.



The one question we get asked is, how do I keep my incense stick alight in my incense holder?  So hopefully this information will help you form a long-lasting relation with incense.



As you can see from the above photo’s these are some examples of how to place your incense stick or cone, starting from the left with a soapstone base you can use the base provided with your incense cone, place in the middle of your base before placing your tower on top.

The middle picture shows a base with multiple holes, if your incense stick stands straight, place in the middle, if it leans a little try placing on one of the outside holes so that it leans inward.  Another trick is to bend the bottom bamboo stick in half which will make it firmer and stand more upright.

The final picture shows a top lidded burner, place your stick inside the hole passing through the foam until you hear the click as it touches the stone underneath, as you place it inside your burner just check that it is straight, if you find it leaning use the same trick as the base incense burner.

Lastly incense towers can get cold in transport so always remember this time of year that your incense stick may be going out because your burner is cold, especially on the inside, so always ensure that your incense holder is at room temperature inside the burner.

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Incense for Anxiety and Restful Sleep

Incense for Anxiety and Restful Sleep

Wouldn't it be perfect to be able to sleep just like our friend above with no cares in the world and just wake up the next day refreshed and ready to run head long into a new day, full of new ideas and welcoming the challenges ahead.

Unfortunately that cannot always happen and we find days, even weeks or months where we let anxiety invade our thoughts, paralyzing us from doing or achieving anything fulfilling.  I, for one, can relate to this - anyone that has run a business, especially in times like these, can understand and empathise with anxiety in all walks of life.

We have a tendency to not realise it is happening, letting it creep up unawares like a monkey sitting on your shoulder whispering in your ear and getting heavier by the second.  I know you have heard me say many times before, our emotions can be altered just by a fragrance but this is only a small part of being able to conquer this annoying upstart.

I was just recently asked what incense would be good to combat anxiety and restless nights and whilst I was replying I realised this really did need a fuller explanation and thought back to how I personally dealt with anxiety when it reared its ugly head in my presence and how I coped with it and maybe this information will help others.

Firstly, you know when anxiety has hit hard because the pit of your stomach feels like someone has tangled your intestines into a fisherman's knot and you cannot understand why you feel this way or how it happened; it is just like waking up one day and there it is.  But if you think back over those past few days or weeks you realise you haven't slept well either, tossing and turning worrying about how to pay those bills, or how are you going to continue to care for someone, will you ever get work, will we ever move out of this awful house.  I named but a few and I am sure you can think of many more but let me get you to take a step back.

Why?  Yes, why are you worrying and letting it get you down.  When you think about it really, sit down and think, rather than feeling sick and anxious because you do not know what would happen switch your negative thoughts and think of it in a positive light.  It is your anxiety that stops you from moving forward, it is your anxiety that stops you from talking to the people you need too. You phone whoever you need to and discuss positively how to go forward - now that is done do I need to worry - no I don't.  So let's get on with the next thing.

If you turn the dark thoughts light it makes a difference and you will sleep better for it.  When you wake up worrying about something - stop thinking about all the negative things that can happen, they are only possibilities that have not happened yet, change it; think about how things will be after you have paid that bill, breezed that job interview - see yourself passing that GCSE or A level, it is amazing how your body reacts to these thoughts and suddenly you are waking up when the alarm goes off and BAM you just had a good nights sleep.

Do not give in, it can take a little time to turn those blue thoughts white but from my own personal experience I can tell you it does work.

Now, after touching on positivity and how it can help change your mind set, incense does have a part to play in combatting anxiety and restless sleep.  The obvious one we will start with is Lavender.

field of lavender in flower with a striking sunset

If you are going to use Lavender Incense I would suggest doing this in the  early evening or throughout the day, if you would like to have the scent of Lavender at night time and you do not wish to smoke your house out with incense smoke a good alternative is Lavender fragrance oil in your oil burner, it does not leave any smoke and has a much gentler scent.  Another thing you could try is a sleep pillow, have it next to you at night or under your pillow.  These pillows are primarily filled with dry Lavender flowers and herbs that aid a restful nights sleep.


Lavender is great for balancing your emotions and calming your mind and cleaning any negative thoughts from your mind.  It aids in promoting deep relaxed sleep, helping your sleeping patterns return to normal, resulting in a more positive outlook when you awaken.  Another helpful tip is to burn Lavender whilst you Meditate or do Yoga as the fragrance will help you feel relaxed physically, relieving stress and allowing you to focus whist doing these practices.

So what other incense or fragrance oils can I use other than the obvious above.  Well you could also try Chandan / Sandalwood.  This is a little beauty it not only helps with keeping that restless night at bay it also helps alleviate melancholy and irritability which always comes hand in hand with anxiety and a sleepless night.  If you also decide to take up Meditation and / or Yoga this incense is brilliant to help you feel relaxed.  


Frankincense and Myrrh are another two of my favourites to use against any anxiety - Frankincense offers protection and brings positivity into your life, making you feel uplifted and dispels any negativity from you or your home.  If I just want to close my eyes and chill out or meditate Myrrh is another nice incense to use.  They both just make you feel super relaxed physically, mentally and spiritually.  Again if you do not like the incense smoke you would probably prefer the more subtle, smoke free option of fragrance oil.



Lemon/ Lemongrass and Lotus are another few of the incense you should try to see which one works for you as well as choosing the fragrance that best suits you too.  Lotus is fantastic for bringing harmony to your moods whilst Lemon / Lemongrass are both used to relieve stress, bringing clarity to your mind, and has a calming and relaxing effect.  It is also another good incense to use for sleepless nights.  The Lotus has a sweet flowery fragrance where as both the Lemon and Lemongrass have a sharp, crisp scent that just bursts with positivity.

Lastly I am going to add Nag Champa as this is a very popular incense that everyone all knows with Sai Baba and Satya.  This wonderful fragrance comes in an incense stick, cones and fragrance oil being used to purify and sanctify your home and when used in the evening will help with your sleep and  calm your dreams.


I have named a few of the incenses and oils that can help with anxiety and sleepless nights but there are many more, its just a case of trying them until you find the one that works for you. Hope this short blog has helped.  

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Fragrance to Help in Winter

Fragrance to Help in Winter

Don't let Winter and its dark nights get you Down check out our advice on some great fragrances to make these months better and your Christmas Great x

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Mental Health and Fragrances

Mental Health and Fragrances

In todays blog I wanted to speak about a topic that can be very sensitive for a lot of people. I would like to start by saying this is not intended as medical advice and the effects can vary depending on each individual.  Over the years talking to many people that have or are suffering mental health issues I realised that fragrances can play a vital role in helping,

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Important Royal Mail Update 1st April 2020

Please read the following carefully as due to the new opening times of our local Sorting/Delivery Office our dispatches will probably be every other day excluding Wednesday, Saturday and Sunday.

We are still open as usual but it may just take a little longer for your order to reach you.  If you have any questions about the details below please do contact us and we will try our best to give any up to date information that we have.

Customer Service Points – Temporary Change in Opening Hours

To protect the health and safety of our people and the general public, from Monday 6 April, we are changing the opening times of our Customer Services Points in our local delivery offices.  Our largest locations will be open between 07:00-11:00am. All other Customer Service Points will be open between 07:00-09:00am. All will be closed on Wednesday and Sunday.

To support the Government’s advice to stay at home and avoid non-essential journeys, we urge customers to only visit Customer Service Points where absolutely necessary. As a reminder, we can also redeliver your item(s) for free.  Schedule your redelivery here.


Longer retention periods in Customer Service Points

To give you longer to collect or have your item redelivered, we are temporarily extending the retention period to 30 calendar days from Monday 6 April before items are returned to sender.

This applies to the following:

  • Items we’ve left a ‘Something for You’ card
  • Items that have a ‘Surcharge to Pay’
  • Items that have a ‘Customs Charge to Pay’
  • Local Collect items where the parcel is addressed to the Customer Service Point

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Back Flow Incense Burners vs Traditional Incense Burners

We are asked these questions often. 

"What incense burner would you suggest?"

"Are back flow incense cones or burners like the other cones I have?"

Well, I hope this blog will help answer some of those questions.  To begin with, Back Flow burners and the incense cones that you use for them are very different from traditional incense cones.

Firstly, traditional incense cones allow the smoke to rise and fragrant your home with the scent that you have chosen.  They tend to last between 20 or 40 minutes depending on the brand and quality that you purchase.  You would usually use a traditional incense burner, be it a long or round wooden, ceramic or soapstone incense burner, that would catch the ash left behind (always be aware that the cone will be red hot, so let it cool down before disposing of the ash).

The Back flow incense cone is totally different to the normal traditional incense cone.  You will see, below, on the right that the traditional incense cone is slimmer and has a more cone, pyramid, look, whilst the back flow incense cone has a much stockier, rounded look.  If you look at the second photo below you will see why - the back flow has a hole in the base which allows the heavier incense smoke to drift downward giving you those amazing displays on a back flow incense burner.  Depending on the quality and brand of the back flow incense cone you purchase, the manufacturers are now making the back flow issue a much more fragrant scent but it will not compare to a traditional incense cone as its primary design is to flow downward and not fragrance your home.  If you want your incense to fragrance your home the traditional one is the best.

As with both incense cones lighting them is the same, the only difference with a back flow is when you make it flame at the tip and blow to make the end red you must allow it to burn down at least a third before placing on to your back flow burner to make it work, where as the traditional can be placed on your burner as soon as you see the red tip and it begins to smoke.

Once the cone is placed on the top of your back flow incense burner you will see the smoke start to drift downward in a thick fog, depending on the design of your burner this will be out of a dragons mouth or as a waterfall.

Both burners will be effected by a draught, so always think where you want to place your burner, insuring that it is always out of reach of children and pets.  For a traditional burner the draught will just push the fragrance around the room but for a back flow burner this will have a much wider impact.  The air movement will disperse and move the downward mist away from the burner stopping any effect it has, even walking past a back flow burner will effect the way it works so always think about where you want to place it.

Not only do you want to think about where you place your burners but also what the incense will do to your furniture. The traditional burner will collect the ash from the cone quite simply on to its base but it is always prudent to place a heat resistant mat or plate under your burner just in case, also check your walls as the oils used in incense can leave a mark against them.

The back flow burner does leave a residue as shown in the photo's below.  It will coat the burner itself but more importantly will leave a stain on your furniture so if the burner does not have a big enough catch at the bottom and you see it drift over your furniture place something underneath to insure no stains.


Always check the instructions with your burner on to how to clean them but we usually find especially for soapstone and ceramic warm soapy water is best to clean your item after use.  For the soapstone you can do this less than the back flow burners.

The thing to remember about both types of burners and cones is what exactly do you want from them.  If you would just like an effect driven burner with a slight fragrance then the Back Flow burner is a good choice, how ever if you wish to fragrance your home with a pleasant fragrance a traditional cone and ash catcher is the better option - or use both depending on your mood. (just not at the same time).

I hope you have found this piece interesting if you would like to ask us any further questions do not hesitate to email me on we are always happy to help.

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Sage Just not for Cleansing

The Silver Sage is a bushy perennial of Western United States with Silvery leaves.

Like other Sages when you burn sage it has scientifically proven that the negative ions in Sage counters the positive ions in such things as pollution, dust or mould.

Although burning these types of smudges are known to help with ailments like asthma, allergies and broncatus you should not be in the same room, (if you suffer from these ailments), as the smudge whilst it is alight as the smoke can actually aggravate the problem you are trying to heal.  Once the smudging has finished, preferably by someone else, wait until the smoke has cleared and then go back in to the room.

It will feel fresher and you will be able to breath a lot easier.

This can be done on a regular basis to help keep dust and allergens down.  I tend to smudge my sons room once a week whilst he is out at college so when he comes home everything is cleansed.

For us, spiritually, Sage is a perfect smudge to burn as it can enhance our intuition, heal us mentally, balancing us spiritually which brings me on to how most people are introduced and believe how smudging Sage will help in their everyday life.

Smudging a home, place, object or yourself expels any negativity associated to it or you.  Think about how your home, or you, feel once you have smudged - I am all about how something makes you feel and how you should listen to that little voice.

When the Universe talks to us - answers a question or gives us what we have been thinking about - do not second guess it "Go with the Flow".

It is like this with smudging if you feel it works for you - your mind is clearer, life feels more positive, your home is fresher, cleaner spiritually and physically then using smudges is a good thing.

When my children are cramming for exams, assignments, even myself, when I start putting work first and start to stress that my balance in life isn't great; I will light a Sage smudge/wand, there is something about the fragrance that soothes you emotionally, the ingredients (properties) in some sages (especially White sage) can alleviate pain, reduce stress or moods.

Like everything in the modern life we will do things that add to our stress levels; for instance why do we always overeat, overspend at Xmas than spend the next two months worrying about what we have done!

This can be for anything from working too little or too much; life in general becomes imbalanced.  Sage can help with those unwanted negative thoughts that can plague us and aid in a good nights sleep.  I don't know about you but I think so much clearer and can deal positively with what life has to throw at me, after a decent good nights sleep.

Plus sage is a brilliant air freshener - no chemicals!

To use your sage make sure you have something to hold your burning sage in, a ceramic or terracotta plate, shell or smudge pot.

Use either matches (I prefer the long oven lighter) and of course a Sage smudge/wand of your choice.

I hope you enjoyed this short blog if you are interested in any of our smudge products or would like further information do not hesitate to contact us at or message us from our online store , Facebook page DMRLS or our Instagram page @dmrlslimited

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Happy Tailang Swami Jayanti

Happy Tailang Swami Jayanti

Today on the 6th January 2020 the celebration of Shri Tailang Swami Jayanti is celebrated by the Hindu community with a festival.

Tailang Swami was believed to have divine powers and was an incarnation of the lord Shiva whereas some of his disciples thought of him as “The walking Shiva of Varanasi”

He lived an extraordinary long life from1607 – 1887 about 280 years and was a Hindu Yogi spending most of his lifetime in Varanasi in India.

His anniversary is celebrated from the Hindu Lunar Calendar falling on Ekadashi Tithi in the month of Pausha during Shukla Paksha.

He taught controlled and contented living.  He realised that man’s senses were his enemies if left uncontrolled.  Although bad masters they could be good servants – they all needed to be controlled and emotions like greed, lust, gluttony and pride should not be entertained.

We all could use time to help control these emotions from time to time.  I always try to find some time in the day what ever I may be doing and just take a moment to be grateful of all what I have.

There are so many times when we lean towards what we do not have, and complain, not realising that these emotions are getting the better of us and controlling us instead of the other way around.  They hinder you from achieving your goals.

Take a moment, light some Ayurveda, smile, appreciate what you have then your mind will be clear to take on the day.

Enjoy x





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The Cold Moon

10th January 2020 – is the Full Moon (the Cold Moon)

It is also known by its name of Wolf Moon or Snow Moon by Native Americans due to the snow on the ground and the fact that Wolves howled more intensely within this month.

The Cold Moon in January is a perfect time to re-charge our inner selves and bring balance to us spiritually.

Like New Year Resolutions this is an amazing time to take a step back and revaluate ourselves and reconnect to nature and everything around us, spiritually, magically, naturally.

As January has much shorter days and longer nights the Full moon can help you work on your intuition.

At this time of year I like to declutter myself physically and mentally – letting go of events and things from the past year, I have not let go of, and are causing an imbalance in my spiritual being, as well as having a massive tidy and decluttering of my home, so both my physical and spiritual health is in complete balance.

There are many ways that this can be done through crystals, meditation, herbs, smudging and incense.

Use what makes you feel right – if its crystals use them; if it is burning incense do that, it is always about what makes you feel complete, not what someone else does, it is what you use that is unique to you and you alone.

Experiment to see what works for you.  I always let these things happen naturally I never think “oh this is what I should be using” I always feel – sometimes I will use smudges other time incense alone will be enough for what I need.

On the 10th I will probably use Lemongrass due to its properties to be able to aid in your mental wellbeing, relieving stress and helping you feel calm and relaxed.

There are other incense you can burn at this time – Frankincense & Myrrh, Lavender, Forest, Cedar, Nag Champa, Oodh and of course White Sage.

You can find a lot of these items as herbs or within smudges that will do the exact same thing.

For my middle son the incense smoke can sometimes affect his asthma, so he prefers to burn these fragrances in his oil burner.

As I said before this is purely something that is personal to you.

Enjoy x



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Fragrance Oils for Colds

Christmas has come and gone and we have stuffed ourselves with too much rich food.

Our defences are down and and we have not eaten as healthily or drunk as well as we should and it is at this time that the dreaded cold rears its ugly head.  

Feeling cold and hot,with a stuffy, bunged up nose, especially in the evenings when you are trying to sleep without having to breath through your mouth because you know in the morning your cold will be complimented with a raging sore throat to match.

For the evenings it is a must to burn either Camphor or Eucalyptus oil, these two fragrance oils are great for allowing you a good nights sleep and if you continue to burn throughout the day you suddenly realise "Hey I'm breathing really well".  this in turn makes you feel more positive and physically well which in turn allows you to recover so much quicker.

I know from my own experience when I burn these two beauties, my recovery from colds has been much improved.  I tend to burn camphor during the day as it is a much softer fragrance than eucalyptus; then Eucalyptus in the evening as the stronger fragrance has a better chance of helping my stuffy nose.


But oils alone are not the only thing in my armoury, no one thing can totally help you, if I have a strep throat I also use garlic and honey "best cure ever!" but I usually realise I got the cold in the first place because my diet was straying a little.

Detoxing your body is a great way to bring balance back in to you physically and mentally;  a great book to read is Forks over Knives it explains the reason behind a plant based diet and for those of you who love meat I am not preaching to you about going totally plant based, but take a step back and adjust some of your eating habits, add more vegetables and fruit;  it is actually where protein originates from (not animals), they just receive the protein by eating the plants.

Just before I go we would all love to wish all our customers old and new an Amazing New Year

all our best wishes Jane, Paul, Luke & Seth x


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